Monday, November 14, 2011

The Five Love Languages (Singles Edition)- My Reflection And Review

The Author

Gary Chapman is the author of this book. He is the author of the New York Times bestseller The Five Love Languages. Dr. Chapman is the host of the weekly one-hour radio program Building Relationships with Dr Gary Chapman, and has been featured at the Pentagon and United Nations. He is a prolific conference speaker and makes his home with his wife, Karolyn, in North Carolina, USA.

My Reflection And Review

When i saw this book, i had a strong desire to read it because i felt i needed it to understand my love languages and the love languages of the people around me; and i want to be more effective on how to communicate with them and two weeks after, i received a copy of it for me to review it (without me telling that i really want this book). Thank God for free books!:)

I agree to the statements on its back cover, "Being single or married has nothing to do with whether you need to feel loved! Everyone has a God-given yearning for complete and unconditional love in the context of all relationships. If you want to give and receive love most effectively, you've got to learn to speak the right love language. Different people with different personalities express love in different ways."

On this book, the author elaborated and gave examples of the real experiences of people on the five love languages which are : 1) Words of affirmation, 2) Gifts, 3) Acts of service, 4) Quality time, and, 5) Physical Touch.

I liked how the author explained these five love languages. Words of Affirmation are simply true statements affirming the worth of another person. Gift came from the Greek word charis which means, grace, or an undeserved gift. I like how he further defined gifts:   

         A gift is given without strings attached, or it ceases to be a gift.
         A gift is a gift only when given as a genuine expression of love, not as an 
         effort to cover over past failures
         Gifts are visual symbols of love.

On defining acts of service, the author differentiated service from slavery. Defining the acts of service and differentiating it from slavery is a great help for us to understand that service is not a kind of slavery. The author's elaboration on quality time was educational. He talked about dialects of quality time and also gave insights on how to become a sympathetic listener. On physical touch, he tackled on appropriate and inappropriate touch, the appropriate setting, how you go about it and he also talked about physical abuse and sexual abuse.

I also liked the section here that talked on how to discover your primary love language and how you should apply that to your dating relationships, roommates, classmates and coworkers. Single Parents were also given advice on how to express their love language to their kids. 

On the last chapter, the author also talked on Success: Love Is The Key. How he defined success is so touching. He said, "Every person has the potential to make a positive impact on the world. Success is not measured by the amount of money you possess or the position you attain but rather in what you do with what you've got. Position and money can be squandered or abused, but they can also be used to help others.. We typically speak of success in specific areas of life, such as financial success, educational success , or vocational success. We also attach the word to sports, family, religion, and relationships. What we mean when we say that people are successful in one of these areas is that they accomplished the goals they set for themselves. Whatever the category and whatever our view of success, we are more likely to succeed if we effectively love people."


On this book, you would learn a lot. Every statement is meaty. Every experience and every lesson are very encouraging and touching. You've got to have this book! Available in all bookstores nationwide. Published by CSM Publishing.

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  1. I've able to discover my primary love language even before I read this book. I discovered how it is really important to know people's love language specially our love ones in order for it to express it in the way they could feel it. thank you for sharing :) God bless you...

  2. Will there be a For the BrokenHearted Edition? Haha kidding! :D

  3. Sunshine, thanks for dropping by.Thats good to know that u know your love language. Keep on speaking your love language and always be reminded that others may have different love language than yours so it would be easy to understand how to communicate with them. Although i already knew some of my love languages before i read this book, it still helped me understood how to love others through their love languages.God bless you,too!

  4. Ronald (theradical96),u may want to email the author about it, hehehe. Seriously speaking, this edition is also for the brokenhearted. You would read there how to avoid it. thanks for reading this blog.


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