But i guess, that was a wrong thinking. Yes, we should not believe that souls are still coming back and visit us, that's heretic. Once a person died, his soul would either go to Heaven or Hell (as stated in the story of The Rich Man and Lazarus in the Bible, you can read Luke 16:19-31).
But I realized that visiting our loved ones', relatives' or friends' tombs in the cemetery or urn of their ashes in the columbarium is just a sign of respect. That is , to remember that , that person had been part of our lives when he/ she was still alive and not totally forget him/ her.
Things You Should Not Do Anymore :
Praying for the soul/s of the dead- we don't need to pray for the souls of our dead. You can again visit Luke 16:19-31. Read verse 26, it says, "And besides all this, between us and you a great chasm has been set in place, so that those who want to go from here to you cannot, nor can anyone cross over from there to us." (emphasis mine). The Bible is very clear that a dead person's soul has only 1 destiny, either in Hell or Heaven and one's soul can not cross over the other.
Bringing the dead's favorite food, etc.- I've researched more about all souls' day from wikipedia and I've learned there that "people go to cemeteries to be with the souls of the departed and build private altars containing the favorite foods and beverages as well as photos and memorabilia of the departed. The intent is to encourage visits by the souls, so that the souls will hear the prayers and the comments of the living directed to them. In Mexico, flowers are thought to attract souls of the dead to the offerings.Toys are brought for dead children (los angelitos, or "the little angels"), and bottles of tequila, mezcal or pulque or jars of atole for adults. Families will also offer trinkets or the deceased's favorite candies on the grave. Ofrendas are also put in homes, usually with foods such as candied pumpkin, pan de muerto ("bread of the dead"), and sugar skulls and beverages such as atole. The ofrendas are left out in the homes as a welcoming gesture for the deceased. Some people believe the spirits of the dead eat the "spiritual essence" of the ofrendas food, so even though the celebrators eat the food after the festivities, they believe it lacks nutritional value. Pillows and blankets are left out so that the deceased can rest after their long journey".
These beliefs are not biblical and i find them as satanic. As I've mentioned earlier, the souls of our dead loved ones, relatives or friends can not go back to us anymore,as the Bible said.
For me, bringing flowers i guess is ok as a sign of respect but what Mexican believed on that that it attracts souls of the dead to the offerings is heretic.
If you still believe those heretic ideas mentioned above, i highly recommend that you read and study the Bible more and know the truth and get to know the Truth, Jesus Christ ,and believe in His name and follow His words.
Some Photos Of Me, My Sister Tess and My Mother During Our Visit Yesterday At The Columbarium Where My Father's Urn Of Ashes Is: (Disclaimer: when we visited, there were already flowers there, we didn't bring flowers, we just visited our father's urn of ashes in the unit as a sign of our remembrance of him and respect that he had been part of our lives).
you can also visit my blog on my father's death here.
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